Your ex might have left you but is all chance of getting them back lost? To win your ex back and ultimately recapture their hearts, you need to understand why the relationship ended and what conflicts made your partner leave. There could be many reasons why they left and the best way to determine your chances of getting them back is analysing if they still have feelings for you.

Do they still love you? Not everyone leaves because they have fallen out of love. Some leave due to a lack of trust, insecurity, lack of variety or simply a lack of things in common. They might see a better compatibility with someone else but they might still love you.

Is their nature similar to yours? Sometimes opposites attract and other times they do more harm than good. Is the fact that they’re more of an active person and you’re not ever seen as a negative? Ever had fights about how they like to talk too much and you just want to be left alone more often than not? It’s pretty hard to change who you are or expect them to change so if this is one of the core reasons for the split, it might be best to move on.

Some people might be battling with internal struggles and feel they are ‘doing you a favour’ by leaving. If they lack self-confidence or put you on a pedal stool, they might find it hard to remain in a relationship feeling like they don’t deserve you on some levels. This can be very frustrating and cause unnecessary arguments. At the end of the day, they need to learn how to love themselves before getting back in a relationship with you.

Physical and verbal abuse is another cause for a partner to leave. If you are the abuser, you should not be thinking about winning your ex back. People who have little control over their temper and are easily angered need to learn proper anger management with professional advisers. You should avoid getting in a relationship if that is your case.

If you want to win your ex back and you feel they still have feelings for you, there are a few strategic steps you can take to stir them in the right direction.

Learn how to make your ex fall in love with you again and how to give a true apology by going to: Getting Your Ex Back